For the last year I've been working on a parenting book inspired by a time I had in prayer. I can remember the exact spot on a Scottish side road where I had a thought to pull over because God wanted to talk to me about something. I don't get these a lot so when I do I pay attention. Pulling over on a Scottish road is not as easy as it sounds. The two lane road consists usually of one and half lanes with stone fences right along side and the speed limit is usually 60mph. I found an entrance to a field and pulled our little Renault onto the dirt. I had about 15 minutes before I needed to pick up my daughter for a friends.
Then following conversation ensued in my head...which some might think means I have a mental disorder but that is where I have learned to hear God's voice.
"Ok Holy Spirit. What do you want to talk to me about?"
"I want you to write a book on presence based parenting and hear is some of what I want you to say...."
What...a book? I like to write but writing a book had NEVER been something i had considered. In the 15 minutes on that Scottish side road, Holy Spirit and I sort of framed an outline which has honestly been edited quite a bit. For the last year I've squeezed in time to write while moving continents and then states, usually before anyone else is awake. Now, it is almost done, thanks to my sister who is helping me edit it.
It it has been a humbling journey. Turns out just because Holy Spirit gave me an idea, that doesn't mean executing it has been easy. Writing a book is definitely harder than a blog especially as I squeeze in time here and there. But it has also been humbling because it is one thing to write about parenting it is another thing to actually parent according to what I believe. My goal in this rather short book (because honestly--if you are a parent who has tons of free time to read) for myself and others is to alleviate some of the pressure and performance of parenting. To simplify. To live less in fear and more in presence. I think most of us would agree that our presence in our kids lives is one of the most important things we can do/give them. And yet in the busyness, stress and the daily grind somehow that seems hard. It takes time. How do we navigate the myriad of choices/decisions in regards to our kids and our time? What are ways to increase our ability to be present with our kids? These are some of the questions I try to answer with tools and things that have helped me, as a mom of four attempt to stay connected to each of my kids.
My hope is that the book is available electronically and print soon...
Ali Millikan, Author
I love Father, Jesus Christ and Holy Spirit. I love my husband and kids. I believe that God is in the room with us; that hearing God's voice is for everyone and that it will change your day to day reality.