Three years ago in May we hired an RV and took our four kids and dog on a trip around the Scottish Highlands. We were living in Scotland at the time, so it was a little less of a journey than it would be now. But for a few days we entered a different world.
First, driving an RV on the windy single lane roads of Scotland, meant that we were in some RV club. Every RV we passed (and there were a lot) would wave, honk or honk and wave. Who knew this was a thing...
Second, in Scotland you can park your RV almost anywhere to spend the night. Private property is a different thing in Scotland. You can roam anywhere as long as you don't disturb the sheep or cows or destroy crops. This meant that while we had a general sense of where we were going we didn't know exactly where we would end up each night.
Third, the Highlands are a unique beauty. Rolling hills, and mountains that are covered not in trees but in heather. Sheep that roam everywhere. Streams, a few cottages and nothing for miles.
Turns out trying to sleep with a dog and 6 human beings in a small RV is challenging. And driving an RV past other RV's on tiny roads is exhausting. But so often journey's are just that--exhausting and yet worth it somehow. We've done enough of them now, that we build in the exhaustion factor into our expectation. The journey has to be worth no sleep, and becoming more tired than we already are.
Sometimes we don't get to choose our journey's-they are thrust upon us. And like our RV trip where we didn't know where we would end up at the end of the day, they are full of unknowns and sometimes out of control. I don't always thrive in the unknown and out of control. But 12 years into parenting I'm realizing that, that is exactly what parenting is--a journey that is out of control and in a lot of places unknown. While I may have a general sense of where I want to head and where I want to end up, the path to there is windy and sometimes it doesn't feel like there is room for two RV's on the same road, one of us has to give way. But in the midst of the unknown and exhaustion it is an amazing process to walk alongside these tiny humans and their journey of life!